Dealing with Toxic Family Members: Is Cutting Them Out the Answer?

1. Think about what the consequences will look like

Ending a toxic friendship differs from cutting off toxic family members. However, in some cases, you might have to interact with the family member you cut off in the future, such as during holidays. Before making a decision, ask yourself if you can cope with the possibility of seeing them again. Ultimately, your decision should be based on your coping strategies and your overall family dynamics.

• Consider whether dealing with the aftermath of cutting them off will cause you more stress. Be honest with yourself and think about all possible outcomes of distancing yourself from them.

• Ensure that you have a support system to rely on if you decide to cut off a specific family member. For example, if you are cutting out a member of your extended family, make sure your parents and siblings are on your side and willing to support you.
  

2. Give yourself time to calm down before making a decision.

It’s incredibly difficult to cut off family members who might’ve hurt you, but sometimes it’s necessary for the sake of your happiness and well-being. Before making a decision, be sure to take the time to calm down and clear your mind so that you can gain better control of your emotions. While you may be feeling frustrated or angry, there’s a possibility you might make a decision you’ll later regret if you act rashly.

3. Try creating some distance before deciding to cut them off for good.

Although it may not be feasible to eliminate someone from your life, you can still create some emotional distance between you and them. For instance, even if you have to interact with them occasionally during holidays or other events, commit yourself to limit your conversations to small talk and avoid discussing any personal issues with them.